80 questions to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend

Easy ones for a Tuesday

• What is the best thing you ate this week?
• What song is stuck in your head right now?
• Which of my habits did you notice first?
• What do you order when you are not trying to impress anyone?
• What is your most used emoji, honestly?
• Which app on your phone would you be most embarrassed to explain?
• What did you want to be at ten years old?
• What is the last thing that made you laugh out loud on your own?
• Tea, coffee, or whatever is closest?
• What is your go-to comfort film?
• Which chore do you secretly like?
• What smell takes you straight back to childhood?
• What is the best gift you have ever been given?
• If you had a free afternoon tomorrow, what would you do with it?
• What is your unpopular food opinion?
• What was your first screen name?
• What do you always overpack?
• What is your favourite word?
• Sunrise or sunset, and be honest about which you actually see?
• What is your karaoke song?

About us

• What did you think the first time you saw me?
• What was the moment you knew this was going to be a thing?
• Which of our dates would you repeat exactly?
• What is a small thing I do that you would miss?
• Which of my friends do you think gets me best?
• What do you think I am better at than you?
• What is your favourite photo of us, and why that one?
• What is something you have wanted to plan for us but have not said?
• Which of my stories have you heard the most times?
• What do you think our friends say about us when we leave?
• What is the nicest thing I have done that I probably forgot?
• Which argument of ours was the most pointless?
• What is a tradition you would like us to have?
• Where do you picture us in five years, no pressure?
• What was the last thing I said that surprised you?
• What do you wish we did more often?
• What did you learn about me this month?
• What is my tell when I am lying?
• What is one thing you would change about how we spend weekends?
• What are you proud of us for?

A bit deeper

• What is a fear you have mostly grown out of?
• When do you feel most like yourself?
• What is something you believe that most people around you do not?
• What is the hardest thing you have forgiven someone for?
• What do you think you are wrong about right now?
• What does a good day look like, start to finish?
• What did your parents get right?
• What do you want more of this year, and less of?
• What is a compliment you never know how to accept?
• Which version of you from the past would you like to reassure?
• What do you do when you are sad that you do not tell people?
• What is a small kindness someone did that you still think about?
• What are you avoiding?
• What would you do with a year and no obligations?
• What does home mean to you?
• Who do you want to be more like?
• What is something you are quietly good at?
• What do you need when you are stressed that you never ask for?
• What is the best advice you have ignored?
• What would you want me to know if you could not tell me directly?

Silly ones

• What would your walk-on music be?
• Which animal would you be worst at being?
• What is your villain origin story?
• If you had to eat one cuisine forever, which one and which dish first?
• What is the most ridiculous thing you have bought at 1am?
• What conspiracy theory would you start?
• Which historical figure would be the worst dinner guest?
• What would you name a boat?
• Which of your relatives would win a fight?
• What is the worst haircut you have had, and do photos exist?
• What superpower would be most annoying to have?
• If our relationship were a sitcom, what is the episode where everything goes wrong?
• What is the pettiest hill you would die on?
• What would you do first if you were invisible for an hour?
• What is the most over-rated film you secretly love?
• What would your autobiography be called?
• Which board game would you ban?
• What food do you refuse to share?
• What would you do with a million pounds, badly?
• What is your least useful skill?

How to make the answers better

Ask one at a time and answer it yourself too. Do not ask a “deeper” one in the middle of a busy evening. And when you want honest answers with no adjusting to what the other person said, put the question on two phones with the reveal rule: Question of the day does exactly that, one a day, with a streak for keeping it up.