120 how well do you know me questions for couples

How the questions work

Most how well do you know your partner questions ask you to describe yourself. These are flipped: each one is written from the point of view of the person being asked about, so you read it aloud, your partner answers about you, and you decide whether they got it. Then you swap. The person the question is about is always the judge, and the judge's decision is final, however loudly it is disputed.

Take a section each rather than racing through the lot. The early sections are there to get you talking; the later ones need a bit of trust, so save hard mode for when you are both in the mood. When an answer is wrong, the correction is usually the best part of the evening, so let it run on.

Favourites

Warm-up territory. If your partner gets fewer than fifteen of these, either they have not been listening or you have not been telling them anything, and it is worth finding out which. The Newlywed game covers this ground on two phones.

• What is my go-to breakfast?
• Which film could I watch again this weekend without complaint?
• What is my favourite way to spend a rainy Sunday?
• Which song do I turn up every time it comes on?
• What is my favourite thing to order from our usual takeaway?
• Which season do I look forward to most?
• What is my favourite colour to wear, whatever I claim my favourite colour is?
• Which board or card game would I pick for a night in?
• What is my favourite place to sit at home?
• Which snack do I reach for when I am not really hungry?
• What is my favourite place I have ever travelled to?
• Which book or series have I recommended to the most people?
• What is my favourite hot drink, and exactly how do I take it?
• Which sport or team do I care about more than I let on?
• What is my favourite dessert?
• Which animal would I choose if we could have any pet at all?
• What is my favourite smell?
• Which shop could I lose an hour in?
• What is my favourite piece of clothing I own right now?
• Which meal that you cook is my favourite?

Everyday habits

The things only someone who lives with you, or has watched you closely, would know. Expect at least one answer you dispute and they can prove.

• How many alarms do I set before I actually get up?
• What do I do first when I walk in the door after work?
• How do I sleep: on my back, on my side or on my front?
• What do I always forget when leaving the house?
• What is the one chore I quietly avoid until you notice?
• What do I do when I cannot sleep?
• How long does my morning routine actually take, start to finish?
• What do I mutter about most often while driving or on the bus?
• What is my usual excuse for being late?
• Which app do I open first in the morning?
• How do I eat a biscuit: dunked, bitten or broken in half?
• What do I do with my hands when I am nervous?
• What time do I really go to sleep, as opposed to when I say I will?
• What is the first thing I say when I am hungry and grumpy?
• How do I organise my phone: folders, chaos or one endless page?
• What do I hum or sing in the shower?
• Which household item do I insist has one correct place?
• How do I react when a plan changes at the last minute?
• What do I usually do in the ten minutes before we leave for anything?
• How do I load the dishwasher, and how wrong do you think it is?

Past and childhood

Nobody knows your childhood as well as you think you have described it. These test whether the stories landed, and you may hear a few told back with details you had forgotten.

• What did I want to be when I grew up?
• What was the name of my first pet?
• Which teacher do I still talk about, and why?
• What was my first job, and how long did I last?
• What was I like at school: chatty, quiet, sporty or in trouble?
• What was the worst injury I had as a child?
• What was my favourite toy or game growing up?
• Which family holiday do I remember most fondly?
• What was the first concert or gig I went to?
• What was my childhood nickname, and who gave it to me?
• Which food did I refuse to eat as a child?
• What was the first album or single I bought with my own money?
• Who was my best friend at primary school?
• What was my bedroom like as a teenager?
• Which subject did I hate most at school?
• What was the first film I remember seeing at the cinema?
• What was my most embarrassing haircut or fashion phase?
• Which took me longest to learn: swimming, riding a bike or driving?
• Which relative was I closest to as a child?
• What is the one story from my childhood my family still tells at every gathering?

Us

Shared history, remembered separately. Two people can live through the same evening and file it under different headings, which is what makes this the loudest section. Memory lane is the two-phone version of exactly this.

• What was I wearing the first time we met?
• What did I think of you after our first date, honestly?
• Where did we have our first proper argument, and what was it about?
• What is my favourite memory of our first year together?
• Which of your habits took me longest to get used to?
• What was the first meal I cooked for you?
• Which song do I think of as ours, and does it match yours?
• What is the kindest thing you have done for me that I still mention?
• When did I first know this was serious?
• What was the first gift I gave you, and how long did I spend choosing it?
• Which of our trips together would I most like to repeat?
• What nickname do I use for you that nobody else hears?
• What was I most nervous about when I first met your family?
• Which of our in-jokes would take the longest to explain to anyone else?
• What is the small thing you do that I secretly love?
• What did I tell my friends about you after we first met?
• Which photo of us is my favourite?
• What is the most ridiculous thing we have ever argued about?
• Which single day of ours would I most want to live again?
• What is the one thing I would want us to still be doing in thirty years?

Opinions and beliefs

You can love someone for years and still be surprised by their view on white lies. These are not about being right; they are about knowing where the other person stands before it comes up for real. Would you rather covers the same ground in game form: eight dilemmas a round, private picks revealed side by side, and a compatibility percentage that builds over weeks.

• Which film that everyone loves do I think is overrated?
• Which small everyday rule do I think everyone should follow?
• Would I describe myself as an optimist or a realist?
• What do I think happens after we die?
• Which cause would I give money to if I won the lottery?
• What is my position on pineapple on pizza, and how strongly do I hold it?
• Which rule from my parents' house do I still agree with?
• Do I think it is ever fine to tell a white lie, and when?
• What do I think is the most important quality in a friend?
• Which invention do I think the world would be better without?
• Do I believe in luck, fate or neither?
• What is one opinion I hold that most of my friends disagree with?
• Which is worse in my book: being late, or being early and waiting?
• What do I think makes a good apology?
• Do I think people can really change, and have I seen it happen?
• What is my honest view on horoscopes?
• What do I think is the right amount to tip, and does it depend on the service?
• Which matters more to me: being right or keeping the peace?
• What is the one thing I think schools should teach but do not?
• How much of our life do I think we should share online?

Hard mode

A mix of the things nobody remembers and the things nobody says. Some of these have answers you may not have given yourself yet, which is rather the point. Go slowly, and count a thoughtful wrong answer as worth more than a lucky right one.

• What am I most afraid of, beneath the joke answer I usually give?
• What is the compliment I would most like to hear from you?
• Which decision in my life do I still second-guess?
• What do I do when I am upset but not ready to talk about it?
• Who do I call first when something good happens, after you?
• What is my exact shoe size?
• If I could change my first name, what would I pick?
• What is one thing about me my parents still do not know?
• Which of my friends do I worry about most right now?
• What was the last thing that made me cry, happy or sad?
• What do I think my biggest flaw is, and would you agree?
• Which achievement am I proudest of that I never bring up?
• What did I want the last time I said I did not mind?
• What am I saving for, or dreaming about, that I have not said out loud?
• What is the one habit of mine I most want to change this year?
• How do I really feel about where we live?
• What is the story I tell about myself that is not quite true?
• What would I do with a completely free day if nobody could see or judge?
• What is my blood type, and do I even know it myself?
• What do I need from you after a truly awful day: space, a hug, food or a plan?

How to score a how well do you know me quiz for couples

One point for every answer the judge accepts, half a point for close enough, and nothing for a wrong answer, however confidently it was given. Hard mode questions are worth two points each, which takes the maximum to 140. If that feels like a lot of arithmetic, score each section out of 20 and compare instead; it tells you more anyway.

As a rough guide: under half, you have some pleasant homework ahead; between half and three quarters, you listen and it shows; above three quarters, you are either very well matched or someone read the list in advance. Keep the sheet. Coming back to it in a year and seeing which answers have changed is the better game.

Couple quiz questions on two phones

The Newlywed game runs this format on two phones. It deals six questions a round: three about you, and three asking you to guess what your partner will say. You each type your answers privately, they are revealed together once both are in, and the person the question is about judges whether the guess was close enough. Points go on a room scoreboard, and questions do not repeat for a month.

Memory lane is for when you want your own questions. Each of you writes a few about your shared history, with the answer; the round opens once you have both written, and you answer theirs from memory. Near-miss spelling is accepted automatically, and you judge the answers to your own questions. Either way, one of you starts a room and sends the other a link. There is no account and nothing to install, and both games work turn-based, so a time zone between you is not a problem.